Idea

Life is like the wave. You can not  change the way it breaks, but you can change the way you ride it.

surfers say so

Facing threat or loss, one hypnotized by danger or sorrow, as a rabbit by boa: «How is it possible to think of benefits when everything is so bad?»

It is not a surprise that stress is associated primary with unpleasant consequences. If stress is “evil”, it has to be fought with or avoided, reduced or managed - it takes energy and of course creates some extra pressure - the vicious circle is rounded.

Thus the decision is really obvious:

- let go something when it is already lost and 

- focus on what is possible in reality (whatever they are).

In fact, this is the Stress Surfing.

It switches attention:

- from disappointment to the values evoked by a situation;

- from avoiding of reality to the search of sources and prospects;

- from fear to enthusiastic development of one’s abilities;

-  from weariness of to the pleasure of really important achievements.